Lately I have experience a lot of people who use this word (Friendship/Friends) loosely and to be honest I don’t think most people know what friendship means.

So let’s start with the definition of friendship…….

1. Friendship is the cooperative and supportive relationship between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, affection, and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis.

2. Friends will welcome each other’s company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as the exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for some, the practical execution of friendship is little more than the trust that someone will not harm them.

3. Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating the following on a consistent basis: the tendency to desire what is best for the other sympathy and empathy honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one’s counterpart mutual understanding.

No let’s dissect this….

1. The first sentence clearly states that a FRIENDSHIP is cooperative and supportive relationship between TWO or MORE people. So this means a friendship can’t come from just one person. If you find yourself constantly being cooperative and supportive to someone who rarely or never gives the same to you then guess what…that’s not a friend.

2. When I call you a friend that means I TRUST you and I know that when I am going through hard times in my life you will be there. There should be no DOUBT in my mind about that. Also if I call you a friend I should RECEIVE your company and loyalty with open arms because I know that what you tell me or do for me is NEVER with the intentions of harming me.

3. A friendship is CONSISTENT and while we show sympathy and empathy, we have to tell our friends the truth because IT IS OUR RESPONSIBILITY! A true friend will always speak the truth and in my opinion if you can’t speak the truth to that person not only is it selfish but you may want to reconsider if you really view this person as a friend. On the other hand you also have to receive what your friend tells you as well it works both ways. You can’t be stubborn and not hear what your friend has to say but expect for them to listen to you.

So for all of you who send me emails about your “friendship drama” that’s my opinion and wiki’s opinion on friendship.

If you find yourself constantly being hurt by someone not being a friend or not accepting your friendship then you may need to rethink if this person is worth your time.

Most of you sound like you are having issues with people who only want your friendship when it’s convenient for them. Well that’s not a friend that’s an associate. Friendship comes with rough times and sacrifice. That’s why you have to be very particular with who you call a friend. A friend is valuable and with enough nourishment and growth a friendship will become priceless and can last for a lifetime.

Have a thicksational day! Love you all!

I hope you were able to watch the Heart Of The City: Jackson yesterday because I am ready to talk

First let me say that my site is about encouraging full figure women to love themselves for who they are. At a size 14 or 34 you have to learn to love yourself and if you love yourself of course you will make sure you try to eat right and stay healthy.

Now back to this documentary….

Here’s my problem with these “obesity” specials….yes it’s great that they bring awareness to our community and want us to focus on staying healthy……

But guess what America……

EATING HEALTHY IS EXPENSIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can almost guarantee that a lot of people who are obese do not have the resources to eat right. People like Star Jones who can afford to get surgery, a trainer and chef are very rare.

Also if and when you go to the grocery store, every healthy product in the store is MORE expensive than the processed/fatty foods.

So its easy for someone with money like a doctor or a psychologist to tell us we need to eat better, but most people are not going to make a decision on should they only get lean meats, fruits/veggies or should they pay their light bill this month!

Am I making excuses? No I am stating facts!

For example, there are certain areas in Jackson, Mississippi where people don’t have a grocery stores within 10 miles of their home and even if they do could they really afford to get the healthy food?

Unfortunately for most people its not that they don’t want to stay healthy its about survival. If I only have a minimum wage salary and I can get a bag of French Fries for 1 dollar vs a bag of Spinach for 4 dollars, most people with a tight budget are going to buy the French Fries.

Now can we still workout? Yes! I feel there is no excuse not to workout at least 3 times a week. You can walk around your neighborhood if you have to, as long as you are moving your body. However, if we keep putting junk in our mouths, are the workouts really helping?

So you want us to get healthy? You are so concern about us?

Here’s what you can do….

Build a grocery store in EVERY neighborhood..yes even people in low income areas need a grocery store dammit.

Give every morbid obese person a voucher every month so they can AFFORD to buy healthy food.

Have free health clinics in every neighborhood that teaches people how to eat & exercise the correct way.

MAKE PHYSICAL EDUCATION MANDATORY IN SCHOOL AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe this will start to create change instead of wasting our times watching these documentaries with people who make 6 figure salaries telling us we have to do to get better.

STOP TELLING US WHAT WE HAVE TO DO FROM A TV SCREEN AND BRING YOUR ASS TO THE COMMUNITY!